Most of your earliest memories of cooking (especially as a black woman), is…
Who taught you?
What are their special dishes?
Any secret families recipes?
… you’ll get stories of remembrance like standing on a stool with grandma breaking up the green beans. Stories of how you baked cookies from scaratch with your favorite Auntie or the most famous- you forgot to take the chicken out and mama got in that ass!
I don’t have any of those stories! What I remember about meals in my house growing up was my mother coming home from work, kicking off her heels, dropping her bags and going straight to the kitchen. Still in her work attire she would begin making dinner (the importance of taking out the chicken 😩) We were already home from school a few hours before. Snack was waiting on the table, we took baths and had our homework done- left open on the table for her to check. The only time we came to the kitchen was when we heard her call “Come eat dinner!”
On Sundays, my family would all go to church. I remember my grandmother sneaking out early, which I always got a kick out of (She’s a piece of work if you’ve ever met her 🤣) After church we would all go to my grandmothers house and have dinner. It was hot and fresh- now I know the reason for her sneaking out! This is what I remember about family dinners. Even today, my aunt is the chef in the family. We live for her cooking BUT do not dare go into her kitchen! She is very particular about her food and makes everyone’s plates- even seconds! You know black women, “I don’t do everyone’s hands in my food!”
I HATE COOKING 🙅🏾🙅🏾🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
Maybe it’s because I don’t have any of those special memories. My memories center more on gathering with family around food but us kids were never in the kitchen. I told my mom it’s her fault I don’t like cooking since we were always told “Go stay in a child’s place!” A guess I learned that cooking wasn’t for kids 🤷🏾♀️
I mean my food is edible, most times really good- but I don’t enjoy making it! It’s a required task. Something I only do because, well, we have to eat to survive! It’s merely something that is required but I don’t necessarily like to do! Working full time, being a parent, a student and a boss mom 💁🏾- I felt like it was taking sooooo much time from my day! I’ve even tried meal preparation services!
I mean I still hate cooking but I literally can make meals in minutes! I made a whole dinner in less than an hour- no lie 🙅🏾 Chicken- 30 minutes Brown rice 🍚 pilaf- 10 minutes and Broccoli- 2 minutes!